Dating DOES suck - and I hate to be so Debbie Downer about it. Unfortunately, especially if you are divorced, you're not willing to "settle" if you don't find that diamond in the rough. I know my dating debacles are as much my fault as they are the guy's - he probably has less of a chance upon meeting me than he did before he met me, if that makes sense. You'd think a girl like me would be a catch - I don't necessarily want to get married, I don't care about your money or lack thereof, I love football and I drink beer. What more could a guy want? (Kidding here - know that will leave me open for LOTS of criticism.) The upside is, I've been single for 9 years, save for a match.com relationship that lasted four years and a Kim Kardashian timeline of a marriage. I'm used to it, it has its perks, and I find myself just going out to "meet people" rather than looking for that man of my dreams. I think that's the best way to look at it. You never know - I might meet that guy in the checkout line at Kroger (probably not, given how I look when I go to Kroger.) Best of luck to you!

So there it is, Amy, Chef K, Irun, whom I've talked ton one dating site about this madness and me. Four people who aren't willing to settle, but are normal people with a lot of good things going on, looking for normal people all plagued by this madness that has infiltrated the dating scene.WTH is going on?? Being single never used to be THIS hard.

Over course of week same guy has messaged me, finally saying " I can see why you're single, you have no personality and are really stuck up" THEN yesterday said "You're a huge c**t"Reported & blocked jerk!!!Then there is the guy requestin a pic of me in pigtails...

@irunforfun: You're brave saying that here. Just sayin.

@amykennard: You look better on a bad day than most people look on a good day.

@irunforfun:
Were they from PDC?

@Chef Kevin: Her loss.

I never wanted to get married, I knew that from a very young age. As it happens I did get married due to very special circumstances that convinced me otherwise. That lasted about 6 years and I regret nothing, we're still friends but just grew apart emotionally. Nothing wrong with or abnormal about that, and I don't understand how people let it turn ugly.So of course I have no desire whatsoever to jump back into the dating scene again. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not going out of my way to look for it.

@tapeworm: If you do plan to jump back in the dating scene the first order of business might be to change your screen name.

irunforfun - That's amazing, but not unbelievable. The way I see it is the dating "pool" is huge, but there are very few fish with whom you are compatible. So, you might be a really nice bass swimming around looking for another nice bass (lol) and then BAM. A huge crappie hits you up. So you do what you do - you just keep swimming.

@JnJ: you mean I shouldn't just be myself?

do you have any no-no's in pics of potentials?for me, it's the wife-beater shirts, or shirtless, or ones showing off their boat AND their fancy car AND, AND, AND... I don't like pretentious. one guy wrote "I'm a handsome ....." (I didn't get any further.)

@amykennard: you know it's all about that bass.

@tapeworm: Wait, what?? When did THAT happen?

@tapeworm:you know what they say about first impressions. I would ease her into the tapeworm aspect of yourself.