Simple things Men/Women want..... on the Peoria.com Forums - Page 6

they don't get in the way!

No need to worry about bite marks either.

respect, agknowledgement (sp?) for the good things they do

to be treated like a normal person and not like crap hows that one for starters

I agree. What I do not agree with, is that "You gotta respect me" Attitude. Respect is earned not demanded. When you do good things you should get acknowledgement, and respect goes with it.

Exactly!!

I promise I dont have that attitude! I'm a very hard working peson, always have been.

I *LOVE* those old Metro's. I had a '92 Metro Convertible and drove the hell out of that thing. Mine was an automatic -- when you had the A/C on, acceleration was glacial at best but that little Suzuki engine never gave up. I'd love to have another some day.

Now SC, you know I respect your opinion on about 98.9% of what you say but here I disagree.

I don’t believe respect is earned. I believe that it should be given freely unless it is shown that the person is undeserving of that respect at which point it may be taken away. Once respect is LOST it must be earned. I think the problem with people these days is that they too often have the attitude that you must “earn” respect and as a result they treat others rudely. You have to be able to trust to grant respect initially and some people are not deserving of that trust but even if they fail you, what’s the cost? A few moments of listening without challenge? I don’t approach anyone (stranger or otherwise) with the attitude that they’re going to screw me over and I really don’t think you do either. That is respect which comes from the trust we have naturally in humanity. It’s unfortunate but there are a lot of deviants in our world today and those people make giving respect difficult. That whole once bitten twice shy adage. Still, you have to wonder what kind of damage a person has to sustain that makes it impossible for them to freely respect a person on faith. How much does it cost us show consideration or thoughtfulness towards another person anyway?

Respect earned is on a complete different level and includes the admiration and deference that must be earned. Two different types of respect. One is earned, one given freely and hopefully not with too much trepidation.

At NO point did I say someone should be treated with DIS-respect. I simply stated that there are some folks out there that DEMAND to be treated with respect, before they have earned it. In a general sense it is those people that "demand" that are usually less deserving. I think you know me well enough to know that I don't treat anyone with disrespect, however you also know that I won't tolerate "attitude" from anyone either. I try to be pretty kharmic in my life. I treat people the way I want to be treated.

You want to be treated with respect SC… you demand it because you deserve it. Perhaps not with the admiration that comes with deep respect (which I agree needs to be earned) but there are some people who are blatantly mistrustful and that shows in their demeanor towards others. They always want verification or proof of integrity. It’s probably merely semantics here but my feeling is that to not offer basic respect IS to show disrespect. It used to be that you’d give people the benefit of the doubt that they meant you no ill will, but unfortunately that’s just not true nowadays. This inability to trust without fear has hardened some people and that’s a shame. The result, not just disrespect but rude behavior and they in turn will lose my respect.

Don’t ever misinterpret kindness for weakness. To offer respect and be disappointed is on the individual who is undeserving. To refuse respect and appear rude is on the one refusing. Make sense? Again, what does it cost us to respect someone who’s undeserving? A few moments of kindness that comes with the benefit of doubt? But to not respect a great man or woman may cost you far more…. a friendship.

I'm so confused.

Me too.

What does all this verbiage have to do with me getting regular no strings attached blow**bs ??

PI! You’re a very intelligent man, I refuse to believe you don’t get me. Simple… to figure it out. What is your definition of the word respect?

Raoul, would you respect me in the morning?