Question about gay/lesbian ettiquette on the Peoria.com Forums - Page 2

Agree, Ramble.

@JnJ: I try to be diplomatic, at least most of the time.

Sounds like you've been hobbled by political correctness. How sad.

@AV8R
Naw, I was diplomatic long before political correctness became an issue. I call it being considerate and respectful to others.

I agree with Ramble. I posted this question because I really cherish the relationship I have with this friend who is an awesome person and Mom and since this is a subject that's not openly discussed without a lot of snideness and hate I don't have a clear grasp on the most prudent approach to common everyday issues.

So are you saying you are worried that if you ask just the friend that maybe the partner would think you are going after them?

No. The answer is no.

It's not about political correctness either. Most events are either a guy thing or a girl thing.

"Hey, wanna go shoe shopping?", says Sally to Betty. Betty's husband Jerry obviously could give a sh*t about shoe shopping, but Betty's partner Mary probably likes to shoe shop.

Dang, I wish I had a girlfriend/wife that wanted to go shooting.

@Chef Kevin:

I'll go shooting with you again.

If you two were good friends before the SO was in the picture, then I would think it shouldn't be necessary to invite the SO. If your friendship was after then it could be tricky.

@JnJ:

I would be curious to hear the difference in your perspective. Its like today people is afraid to interact.

I know this is going to sound all kinds of wrong to a lot of people, but this is how I look at it.

If you (a woman, who is interested in men, happily married) ask Chef Kev (a man, who is interested in women) to go out shooting without his said girlfriend, even if nothing would happen because Chef Kev is obviously faithful, it is going to raise eyebrows because people have nothing better to do with their free time.

Now, on the other hand!

If you (a woman, still interested in men, happily married) ask your friend of many many years Betty (a woman, interested in women, happily involved) to go out shooting without her girlfriend no one will think anything of it. I guess maybe the girlfriend will feel alittle left out, maybe she has control issues who knows. Fact is, it is totally different asking an involved straight man to do something than an involved lesbian female.

My 2cents

@leslie110:

I just have to find a new spot since I quit the club. Been offered a place; just have to check out where it is (somewhere south of Pekin along the IL River).

OTOH, JnJ, just put that information in formal, written invites that while you wish to offend no one, you are only inviting those people on the invite as (insert reason here).

I dont see what the problem is unless this other persons is known for wearing a$$less chaps and carrying a boombox everywhere that plays its raining men over and over again. Invite them you might make a life long friend out of it.