Kindness on the Peoria.com Forums - Page 2

I am lending a friend of mine my truck for a week so she can move some heirloom furniture out to Colorado to her daughters house.

I paid for a doctor's visit for a sick friend who lost insurance coverage in January.

I think it’s awesome you do so many nice things Leslie, I’ve seen first hand the good use they put those supplies too at the schools. Don’t take offense to the “glory seeker” reference, it certainly had nothing to do with you. Just a statement of fact that if some people on this board had made such a comment it would have been called glory seeking or attention getting. I don’t share that opinion mind you, I call it conversation. But then again, I’m usually on the recipient end of the comments. Frankly, I think it’s far nicer to be polite to one another and not be so rude. I’ve never done anything with the need to be patted on the back for it and I’m pretty sure you don’t either. The difference is I’m accused of that all the time. Nice to see so many people willing to come to your defense on that.

I also agree with JnJ, it’s very dangerous to approach some of these people and could cause you injury. You have a beautiful child and it’s best you keep yourself safe and not chance that. I don’t know how many times I’ve been approached in various parking lots and sometimes it can be uncomfortable. To give them handouts would be like feeding the birds in the park. Feed one, they all flock. If handing them the $5 would fix the problem I’d say go for it, but you know the old adage. “Give a man a fish…..”

Just stay safe.

If the old saying is: "Give a man a fish and you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish and you have fed him for a lifetime".

How does staying away from someone in need, fit into the teaching part?

I don't like people who panhandle either.
It sucks from a business standpoint - I never noticed it so much until I started working downtown. We occasionally have to kick people out of the building out of our parking lot because they are begging and scaring guests.

I feel bad, but there are actually several places they can get support downtown.

It’s not catering to a need Joepye, it’s feeding a want or addiction. Many of them are drug addicts, alcoholics etc. If you give them cash, they buy more booze. If you show them where they can get helps i/e local food banks, social service programs, community centers where they can get a free meal, soup kitches, etc… they will never go hungry and you wont be enabling them to continue with their addiction. If I hand anyone cash I’d like to know that money’s not going to be the source of what kills them. Or worse enables a drug addict to do something stupid that will endanger an innocent bystander. It really isn’t safe and cd’s right. Those people need help, but cash is not the form of help they need.

Anybody asking you for 5 bucks in the parking lot of anywhere is working the lot, period. There is an older black woman in town that usually has a really good back-story about a broken car, a church, traveling , her daughter or grand daughters are back in the car, ect. She needs it fixed, she makes a ton of money and is very good at what she does. She has been working those cons for years now and can squeeze the right person for everything they can get their hands on.

I had a stranger once stop and ask me out on a date. Then he asked me for 10 bucks. I laughed and told him "How are you going to take me out for date, if you don't have any money?, Nice try, buddy."

Like I said...it was $5.00 and I would rather her not need it and get it than need it and not get it. I could spare the $5.00, it was during the day, Abby was not with me so she wasn't in danger, and even if I got taken I don't care.

So did you guys just stay in then?

I've got a job now.

You mean guys are supposed to bring money on a date? I thought the chick was supposed to pay...LOL!

Jeeze Dave, if i'd known you needed the money to spend on chicks, I'd have given it to you.

lol!

HEY, if they want to be seen with ME, they better pay!

That is what I have heard...LOL! I am sure you are worth every penny!