Cheating. on the Peoria.com Forums - Page 10

That isn't what life is all about. If that is all you seek in a relationship regardless of Male or Female you will always be disappointed.

So, what you're saying is if your S.O. told you that she just lost all desire for physical contact (sexual and emotional... hugging, hand holding, kissing) ... That wouldn't get to you eventually?

You have a very lucky wife.

Now that isn't to say I don't enjoy those aspects of a relationship.. it just isn't the "driving" force behind it.

Believe it or not people, there IS more to a relationship than just S-E-X, yes, it is important, but its NOT what makes the relationhip go 'round.

What does that have to do with anything? That's a relationship problem, and is different, albeit parallel, to cheating.
It still goes back to the desire for sex.

shifty,

Again you ar reaching. I don't care how much I "desired" sex I would never cheat.. It isn't the kinda person I am. Dishonest people cheat.


If it got that bad in a relationship I would end it, not cheat

".....end it, not cheat" wise choice.

I didn't say the desire for sex would make people cheat, but that those who do make the decision to cheat, sex is the reason.
People are tempted to cheat by the opportunity of sex, and some make the decision to do it, and some not.

It is the only logical choice.

Dishonest people cheat. Honest people do not. We all have the same desires.. the wild card is rather or not you are honest or dishonest.

The fact that you KNOW this is what makes her a very lucky woman Pock.

Here's where we keep getting into trouble Flip and perhaps you don't understand it. Online communication is hindered by lack of visual clues and perhaps I'm not coming across clearly here. But what we're trying to say is it doesn't have a whole lot to do with sex at all. Intimacy is a need completely in and of itself and it's very important in a relationship. If you fail to feed that need you can have the best marriage with a satisfactory sexual relationship and still be missing the mark. Every photograph, every romance novel, every single chick flick you watch shows clearly the effect of intimacy. It's not sex, has nothing to do with sex but can often be confused as one and the same. It's the love you feel during sex. It's self worth. It's the difference between being "f*cked" and making love. When a man or a woman withholds that contact he or she mistakenly removes intimacy from the relationship and that's where they get into trouble.

Then, there are the ones who just want to get laid. But not always. Make sense? Or have I really mucked it up for you?

Not picking on any specific gender, but...it is wise for men to think with the head on their shoulders, instead of...ya know?

Could this be the problem?

Only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds, with the loyal superstars including beavers, wolves and some bats.

http://www.livescience.com/mysteries/080319-llm-monogamy.html

What does that have to do with anything? That's a relationship problem, and is different, albeit parallel, to cheating.
It still goes back to the desire for sex.