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I wish that were true.. Fact is I am the lucky one.. I still don't know how I ended up with her..

Awwwww, thats sweet Pock!

Again, I stand by my original statement... "The fact that you KNOW this is what makes her a very lucky woman Pock. " It applies to this comment as well. Don't undervalue what you bring to the relationship and never doubt every woman out there would LOVE to hear their man say the same thing about them. You're feeding that emotional need I'm talking about here. She's a very lucky woman.

True, but when you're involved with someone who suddenly loses all interest in bedroom activities and only "wants to be held" every day for months, a wandering eye is bound to follow.

It's not everything, true. However when you enter a relationship where sex was a frequent thing, and suddenly it goes away at the whim of another, thats unfair.

I was just thinking about emotions as well, there are different 'affairs' people have, physical AND then there's the emotional, yet, is there a difference and what is it??? Its hurtful either way.

Speaking solely about marriage now.. but you promise "for better or for worse"

Why would I want to have sex with someone I know is cheating on me? Hello? I am disease free and like it that way!!!

Yes, you do Poc... but an emotional need is much stronger than a sexual need. You can satisfy yourself if push comes to shove but what are you going to do for that emotional need? Stand in front of the mirror complimenting yourself? Eventually, you'll break or abandon the marriage. Not everyone wants to do that. Sometimes their love for that person's so strong they are willing to self sacrifice and wait/pray it changes. It may, or may not but they stick it out. What's better? The man or woman willing to abandon the marriage or the one who tries to stick it out and becomes vulnerable to temptations outside of the marriage.

It's sad either way.

I'll have to agree with ya there Christi.

Cheating isn't defined by the actions of 'The Cheater'. Cheating is defined by the reaction of the person emotionally affected.

Some people may be emotionally hurt because his or her spouse had lunch with a co-worker of the opposite sex. On the flip side......a couple may have an open relationship where anything goes.

The definition of cheating is individual to each relationship. It is what it is.

Yeah... the exception, not the rule.

I actually do know a couple living that nightmare right now and it's horrible. He's walking around literally stooped all the time. Once a very proud, strong and beautiful man and this is tearing him up. It's been going on for four years now. I don't think he's cheating on her right now but he's going through hell and my heart breaks for him. His doctor keeps telling him when she gets through the change things will improve but four years? Come on! How long does it take to change?

Yeah, I know of couples like this as well... in an open relationship where both party is free to explore a physical relationship with other partners was excusable as long as they never got involved emotionally. Their rules were that there be no secrets. Who, when, where and what occurred was always freely shared and sometimes they both played. Their definition of "cheating" is definitely more liberal than mine.

I/e, with my present husband I felt betrayed if he picked up a porno, with my ex husband he could bring a dirty magazine in anytime and I had no problem with it. So it changes with each relationship even if one persons the same.

There is no way in the world I could handle being in an 'open relationship', when I am in a relationship, its with the ONE person and one person ONLY!

I agree with that Flip, it takes me awhile to build up the confidence with one person in the room. I can't imagine trying to measure up to two!